Bringing a new cat home can be both exciting and a little nerve-wracking. While many people imagine instant cuddles and affection, the reality is that cats often take time to adjust to new environments and new people. Unlike dogs, which may bond quickly, cats usually build trust more slowly and carefully. Because of this, many cat owners wonder the same thing: “Does my cat actually like me, or are they just tolerating me?”

The good news is that cats are often more expressive than people realize. While their behavior can sometimes seem mysterious or unpredictable, they actually communicate affection and trust in very clear ways once you know what to look for. If your cat hasn’t fully warmed up to you yet, don’t panic. Strong bonds with cats are built gradually through patience, consistency, and respect for their space.

Here are some common signs that your cat genuinely enjoys your company and feels comfortable around you:

One major sign is kneading. If your cat presses their paws rhythmically against a blanket, pillow, or even your lap, it usually means they feel safe and content. This behavior often traces back to kittenhood, when kittens kneaded their mothers while nursing. Adult cats continue doing it around people they trust and feel emotionally connected to.

Another sign of affection is when your cat brings you “gifts.” While finding a toy—or sometimes something less pleasant—on the floor may not seem romantic, cats often do this as a way of sharing with someone they consider part of their family or social group.

Sleeping near you is also a strong signal of trust. Cats are naturally cautious animals, especially when resting because they are more vulnerable while asleep. If your cat chooses to nap beside you, at your feet, or even directly on you, it means they feel secure in your presence.

Physical affection such as rubbing against your legs, head-butting, or curling up beside you is another clear sign. Cats have scent glands around their face and body, so rubbing against you is actually a way of marking you as someone important and familiar to them.

Slow blinking is one of the most well-known signs of feline trust and affection. If your cat looks at you and slowly closes their eyes, it often means they feel calm and safe. Many cat owners even return the gesture with a slow blink of their own.

Some cats also show attachment by grooming their owners. Licking your hand, hair, or arm may feel unusual, but grooming is a bonding behavior in the cat world. Cats groom those they feel connected to socially and emotionally.

Purring can also be a positive sign, especially when combined with relaxed body language. Although cats may purr for different reasons, purring while cuddling or sitting comfortably near you is often associated with happiness and comfort.

Perhaps one of the biggest signs of trust is when a cat shows you their belly. Because the stomach area is vulnerable, cats usually only expose it when they feel completely safe. It doesn’t always mean they want belly rubs, but it does suggest they trust you deeply.

And finally, if your cat follows you around the house, chances are they simply enjoy being near you. Whether they sit nearby while you work, follow you into different rooms, or wait outside the bathroom door, this behavior usually means they like your presence and want to stay connected.

If your cat isn’t showing all these signs yet, don’t be discouraged. Every cat has a different personality, and some take longer to form close bonds than others. Building trust with a cat often requires patience, gentle interaction, and respecting their boundaries.

Over time, small moments of connection can grow into a strong and rewarding relationship. With consistency and care, many cats eventually become deeply loyal companions—even if they show it in their own unique way. Signs your cat truly cares about you:

Kneading beside you = feeling safe and comforted
Bringing you toys or gifts = showing affection
Sleeping near you = complete trust
Rubbing against you, cuddling, slow blinking = emotional connection
Licking or grooming you = bonding behavior
Purring around you = contentment and happiness
Showing their belly = feeling secure and trusting you deeply
Following you around = enjoying your presence